Dharius Daniels - Mastering the Art of Goodbye

You see, a message like this is not for people who love mediocrity. A message like this is for people who are allergic to average. A message like this is for people who—if you are hot—you must admit you are dealing with conflicting emotions. You are grateful for what you have, but something inside you is telling you there’s more. Who am I talking to today? I said you’re not unappreciative of what God has done, but there’s something inside you that’s creating an expectation that makes you believe the best is yet to come. I want to pause because I’m trying to locate people who are honest enough to say, «I’m grateful, but I’m still frustrated. I’m thankful, but I believe God is getting ready to do what my eyes haven’t seen and my ears haven’t heard.» There are people around me who are misunderstanding me, and they’re telling me that I should be satisfied, that I should be stagnant. I’m not built for the boat; you stay in the boat. I gotta walk on water. I got wavy faith. He is not just the God that arranges entrances; He is the God that orchestrates exits. I am telling you that this is the reason many individuals do not reach their redemptive potential. What do I mean by that? I mean that everybody has potential, but when you get redeemed, your potential changes. You can go further, you can go faster, you can do more, and you can go higher. The reason some people do not reach their redemptive potential is not that they lack a desire for something new; it’s because they do not have the ability to let go of something old. I believe even some of God’s best have struggled with this. We see it clearly in the book of the Bible called First Samuel, right? When a religious and civil leader, whom the Bible calls a judge named Samuel, hears a word from God, God says to Samuel, «How long are you going to mourn over that which I rejected?» There was a king that Samuel had selected, and Samuel wanted that king to succeed. He wanted that king to win. That king’s name was Saul. But Saul got infected with arrogance, and arrogance is insecurity playing dress-up. He gets infected with arrogance, and God says, «Okay, I gotta pick another king.» Now, this is what’s interesting: the king that God is getting ready to pick, David, will likely be considered morally inferior to Saul. When you look at what Saul’s issue was and what David’s issue was, we would probably say Saul was the more moral man. But God picks David because He says, «A man after my own heart.» He said, «I can use people that aren’t perfect; I just can’t use people I can’t trust.» So He asks Samuel, «How long are you going to mourn over that which I rejected? How long are you going to nurture an emotional attachment to something I’m through with? I used it, but I’m through with it. I blessed it, but I’m through with it. It served its purpose, but I’m through with it. I know you love it, but I’m through with it. And if you’re going to follow me, you gotta learn how to perfect the goodbye.» Oh, I heard that. Some of you are in a season where God’s trying to perfect your goodbye. God says to Samuel, «Listen, he served his purpose, and if you don’t master the art, Samuel, of goodbye to that era, you’re going to wake up and find yourself where I was, not where I am.» He says, «I want you to fill your horn and go down to Jesse’s house because that’s where I’ve selected my king.» He said, «You got oil, but I no longer want you to pour it in that place. I’m getting ready to show you where to pour your oil.» I don’t even know why I’m talking about this; it’s not even in my notes. But I want to let somebody know there’s nothing wrong with your oil, nothing wrong with your anointing, nothing wrong with your ability. Just because they don’t value it doesn’t mean it’s not valuable. But if you will let God help you perfect the art of goodbye, He’s going to show you where to pour your oil. For everybody that doesn’t want to listen to you, won’t take your advice, won’t appreciate you, God’s got somebody who is waiting on the oil He’s put on your life. If we’re going to advance, we must embrace the reality that endings are not always evil. Henry Cloud calls them necessary. If adolescence doesn’t end, I never get to adulthood. If spring doesn’t end, I never get to summer. Am I making sense? If we don’t understand that God is the God who sometimes orchestrates endings, we will find ourselves in seasons of life where we are crediting the devil with something that God did. God’s like, «All of that? Not the devil; some of that is Me.» That wasn’t rejection; that was protection. That wasn’t rejection; that was direction. That wasn’t a breakup; that was a breakthrough. That wasn’t the devil; that was Me. Anyone who’s going to continue to advance must master the art of exits. And if you’re going to master the art of exits—are you all ready for this? If you’re ready, say yes! Come on, if you’re ready, say yes! Here it is: if you’re going to master the art of exits, listen TC Nation, you must learn how to exit without explanations. I’m gonna go sit down. Did you hear what I just said? Yes, yes. If you’re going to master…