Dharius Daniels - The Secret to Overcoming Negativity in Your Life

Do I have permission to help you develop a framework that can assist you in coaching yourself out of 75 of your problems? This is no fluff; I’m not even using my normal speaker framework in this session. I’m skipping steps and going straight to the meat—no salad coming to the table, no fruit, no sorbet, no soup. I’m going straight to the entrée right now. Do I have permission to give you a framework that will help you solve 70 of your problems? I want someone to put the letter H and the number three in the chat. If you are in TCP, you know what this is; you know what I’m getting ready to teach you. If you’ve gone through TCP, you also know what I’m preparing to teach. But I’m getting ready to teach you how to use this on yourself. It’s one thing to try to use it on somebody else; I want to teach you how to use it on yourself. H3, here it is: the first H is head. Are you all with me? Let me go to the board, let me go to the board, let me go to the board. So, first H; second H is heart; third H is hands. Are you all following me? Listen to me; I’m going to try not to jump because, you know, if you watch me preach, I sometimes get a little too excited. Every problem in your life falls into one of these three categories. Excuse me, one of these three categories is the solution to any problem you have in your life. Somebody put «what» in the chat. It can be a relationship problem; the solution is in one of these three. It could be a finance problem; the solution is in one of these three. It could be a professional problem; the solution is in one of these three. It can be a business problem; the solution is in one of these three. It could be a parenting problem; the solution is in one of these three. It’s either head, heart, or hands—one of these will get you out. Somebody put some fire in the chat if you are ready for me to break this down! Come on, put some fire in the chat if you’re ready for me to break this down. All right, so when I say «head,» this is what I’m saying: it can be a mindset problem. I’m telling you this is the answer for eighty percent of the issues, because let me walk you through a framework. I did a teaching a while ago on belief systems, and there’s this framework that I talked about when it comes to mindset. So we have a situation or an event, meaning something happens—you got me? You have a situation or event where something occurs; that’s a fact. Does that make sense? Somebody lost a job; that happened. Somebody went through a breakup; that happened—that’s a fact. But the situation creates thoughts, and your thoughts are your interpretation of what the situation means. The situation is a fact; your interpretation of what that situation means is not a fact. Let me say it one more time: the situation is something everybody will look at and agree with. Does that make sense? It’s like if a car was in an accident; I could look at the car, and I can agree that’s the situation. But your interpretation may be different. You can have a car wreck and then start thinking, «I’m losing my job, ” and „Since I’m losing my job, my kids aren’t going to be able to eat because now I’m not going to be able to get to work.“ See, that’s not a fact. Am I making sense, guys? So there’s a situation, and then there’s your interpretation of what the situation means. This is where the enemy comes in because the enemy is an illusionist. He operates in the realm of your imagination and uses your imagination to create terrible circumstances. So you are literally playing out in your head false evidence appearing real. Who caught it? Who caught it? Who caught it? You’re literally playing out in your head false evidence appearing real because he wants to take the situation, impact your interpretation of it, and create thoughts. Are you all following me? I’m going to come back here; we’re about to spin the block. We’re going to come back here because it’s at this point where you need to reframe, where you need to refuse to accept the enemy’s interpretation of what that situation means, and you need to reinterpret and reframe it. Some of us wait too late. When you don’t know these tools, when you don’t know these skills, you wait too late. If you don’t deal with the thoughts—your interpretation of what the situation means—those thoughts now become feelings. Wait a minute, so now I have feelings. Now I’m in a car accident, and I’m wondering how I’m going to be able to get income, how I’m going to provide for my family. So now that my mind is thinking about that, my emotions are responding, and now I feel anxiety. So what did the enemy do? He compounded my problem. At first, I just had a car problem; now I have an anxiety problem. I can’t sleep, I can’t rest, I can’t be at peace, so now instead of just fixing my car, I’m trying to fix myself. If I’m stressed, irritable, agitated, and upset, you know what else that affects? It affects other people around me. And if you have any kind of romantic relationship, it means now…