Dharius Daniels - Three Keys to Get Unstuck

What’s up? Listen, I have something to tell you. Check this out: at some point in your life, in some area or areas, you’re going to get stuck. I’ve seen it—I’ve seen it; I’ve seen it. First of all, personally, in my own life. So when I talk about life, I don’t want to be vague or ambiguous; I want to be super clear. Your life is like a pie. I created this diagram years ago, and I need to revamp it, upgrade it—call it a life product—to help people see that when we’re talking about your life, we’re discussing your character. That’s a compilation of your spiritual and emotional health; that’s super important because it determines the quality of your life. I’m talking about your relationships, and you’ve got all sorts of relationships in that pie. I’m talking about your resources, which refers to the financial area of your life. I’m talking about your physical health, as that’s a huge part of your life. I’m also addressing your professional life. All of those areas make up your life. Mine is a simplified version of a life wheel that some coaches use, but here’s the point I’m making: in one of those areas—whether it’s your character, relationships, resources, health, or professional career—everyone plateaus at some point. The question is, what do we do when that happens? How do you get unstuck? Here’s the problem: many times, we remain stuck because we assume we won’t get stuck. It’s as if we don’t have a plan for stuckness; we haven’t developed skills or a strategy for seasons where we feel trapped because we assume we aren’t going to be stuck. I know right now you’re listening to me and saying, «No, Darius, that’s not going to be the case for me in my relationship. I know who I’m with. I love him; I love her. We’re never going to get stuck. The love will never run out.» Okay, or maybe you’re looking at your resources and saying, «I’m never going to be financially stuck. I’m never going to plateau; it’s up from here.» I’m telling you that this is the way it is. I heard one leader put it this way: to be surprised by the inevitable is to be naive. If I think I’m never going to experience a plateau in any area of my life, it’s just naive. It’s not faith; it’s not optimism. Faith doesn’t deny reality; faith believes God can change it. Faith doesn’t deny reality; faith believes God can change it. Faith says this might be my situation now, but my situation and my circumstances are not sovereign; God is sovereign. Because God is sovereign and not my situation or my circumstances, this is subject to change. I’m believing for this to change; I am acting as if this is going to change. The point I’m making, guys, is that to be surprised by the inevitable stuckness is to be naive. When it comes to stuckness, I want you to hear something: you need more than strength. Strength alone is not enough to get you unstuck. We need more than strength; we need a strategy. We need more than will. You know you can’t will your way into an amazing relationship; you can’t will your way into an amazing financial reality. You can’t will your way into great character or great spiritual and emotional health. Now, I’m not saying the will is unimportant—of course it is essential. You need the will to use the skill. So it’s not this or that; will or skill—it’s this and that. To get unstuck, I need both the will and the skill. This is what I’ve learned, and I want to share this with you. This has been a game changer for me; it’s revolutionized my life. This is something I train my inner circle on. I have a mastermind group that I lead—a group of… well, now I can’t remember, but it’s a year-long mentorship mastermind that I lead. We’re helping people take what they know; we call it knowledgepreneurship because we believe you have something in your head that can serve other people and create a stream of income for you. There’s something you know that is the answer to someone else’s issue, but it takes skill to get it from your head to wherever it needs to go. Right? You’ve got to develop the skill of coaching or the skill of communicating. When I say speaking, people think of public speaking, but it doesn’t have to be keynote speaking. You must develop the skill of communicating, which is the skill to get it from your head to somebody else’s. Anyway, the point I’m making is, I’ve seen this in my own life, personally and professionally. When it comes to getting unstuck, there are just three keys. If you feel locked down, locked up, or restricted, I am telling you that if you will look at these three areas, they will get you unstuck. I’m going to say that again: if you look at these three areas, these areas will get you unstuck. Okay? The first one is character. If I’m stuck in any area of life…